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Tuesday, November 12, 2024

No Wimps Allowed

 Writing romantic suspense means balancing.

The romance angle usually does best when the male lead is strong. Let’s be honest, women read romance, and women like strong men. What a strong man looks like can vary (leadership, fight skills, intelligence), but I’ll stick with that general term. But I have read (or attempted to read) way too many books where the male is strong, and it seems the writer deems that the female must then be a simpering wimp. She gets overwhelmed and cries constantly, she can’t take the lead, and she’s often rather stupid.

Or occasionally, the opposite—the female is a ball-buster, and the male is a wimp. These books are usually dubbed female-empowering. But if the woman can be balanced only by a wimp man, how empowered is she really? And the female is often written with exaggerated characteristics. She can fight better than any man, including when mass and strength are at play. She can command authority from anyone. She knows everything. And if I’m being honest, she’s often written to be a bit masculine—she’s strong in the exact ways men are strong. Not that women can’t be fighters or aggressive, but why isn’t it okay for women to be strong in ways that men typically aren’t?

I’ve always loved that line in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, where the mother tells her daughter, “The man is the head [of the house], but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants.” Men tend to be direct, and that can be good. But women often have the amazing skill of nudging things along more subtly. Maybe this skillset isn’t often incorporated in books because it’s harder to write. I don’t know.

In my opinion, the best romantic suspense books are the ones where the male and female leads are strong in their own ways. They lean on each other. For Example, in The Lost Library, Asher (former SEAL and billionaire) takes the lead when his resources or skills are needed, and when Cali's relationships or talents (master cryptologist) are needed, she takes the lead and Asher supports her. They don’t become passive or wimpy, but they become the supporting role in certain situations.

When balance is achieved in these relationships, when each person is able to shine, it can be very fulfilling. Not just in books but in life.


Melissa Koslin is a fourth-degree black belt in and certified instructor of Taekwondo and author of Dangerous Beauty and Never Miss. In her day job as a commercial property manager, she secretly notes personal quirks and funny situations, ready to tweak them into colorful additions for her books. She and Corey, her husband of twenty-five years, and their young daughter live in Yulee, Florida, where they do their best not to melt in the sun. Find more information on her books at MelissaKoslin.com.

THE LOST LIBRARY

Her past has caught up with her. Again.

Cali Lebeau has been aiding hackers with her cryptology skills to track an apparent terrorist organization. When they discover what she’s been doing, they target her. Asher Cross, billionaire recluse, insists on aiding her, though she doesn’t understand why.

Asher Cross has secrets. He must help Cali, keep her alive, but he cannot let her understand his past or his motivations—in order to protect her.

They discover that the terrorist organization is searching for the Golden Library of Moscow, which was first assembled by Ivan the Great and had grown over time to include the oldest and most valuable texts in the world, including missing masterpieces. They believe the library holds black magic and the secret to everlasting life. It was stolen from them by Cali’s ancestor, and Cali holds a clue to its location handed down by her mother. In order to free herself and Asher, Cali must race against the terrorists, find the library, and share it with the world.

Will they be able to solve the mystery surrounding the Lost Library or risk losing their lives?

AMAZON- https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D9SX5548

KOBO- https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/the-lost-library-12

BN- https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-lost-library-melissa-koslin/1146033622

APPLE- https://books.apple.com/us/book/the-lost-library/id6562107275


10 comments:

  1. Absolutely LOVED this book! Her writing is captivating suspense that you just can't put down!

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  2. Agree with you wholeheartedly! Give me a story where both the man and women have their strong points, but aren't afraid to ask for help if needed. That is real life - give and take. To me, it makes it more realistic and I'm more apt to recommend the book to everyone I know.
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  3. I'm so excited to have this book in my TBR list! Really looking forward to reading it. I agree with you that the best romantic suspense books need to have male and female leads who are both strong in their own ways. They can compliment and assist each other. When one is wimpy and/or the other is controlling, it can prove to be be a frustrating read for me.
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  4. What great insight on the roles men and women play! Complimentary, not combative. I need to get this new book! It has all the details I love most. And library in the title—what a hook! watts.vickie@gmail.com

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  5. What a great sounding book, it sounds like a must read, I will be adding it to my TBR. Have a great weekend. Alicia Haney. aliciabhaney(at)sbcglobal(dot)net

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  6. The balance can be difficult is fiction and in real life!

    pattymh2000(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  7. I love stories where the male and female are equally strong in their respective skills! As my 4 yr old daughter says, "Teamwork makes the dream work!"😉

    This book sounds amazing! Can't wait to check it out!

    Heather Mitchell crhbmitchellfam@gmail.com

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  8. I agree that the best stories feature male and female leads that both have their own strengths.

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  9. Sounds like an exciting book! I wholeheartedly agree with you, I prefer when the female character is equally as strong as the male character.

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  10. Sounds like such a great book! Sarahbaby601973(at)gmail(dot)com

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