Do you feel it yet? Thanksgiving can be so stressful
under normal circumstances. If you’re the one responsible for preparing the
Thanksgiving meal, that stress doubles.
There are family traditions to consider. Grocery
shopping to be finished. Lists to be made to make sure you don’t forget
anything, (I’ve certainly had to make more than one trip to the grocery store
in the past!). Then there are the special food requests for those who might be allergic
to certain ingredients. Coordinating with family and friends on who plans to bring
what pie. You don’t want to have 3 pecan pies and no pumpkin or apple.
And that’s just the beginning. Next comes the actual
meal preparation. I usually start cooking the day before Thanksgiving.
Sometimes earlier. I’m a planner.
Making sure the Thanksgiving meal comes off
without a hitch takes a lot of organization and it’s easy to get frazzled when you’re
in the middle of the storm.
One thing I’ve learned through the years is that
it’s important to take “moments” in between.
Before you find yourself frustrated, step away
for a little quiet time with God. Be sure to thank Him for everything He has
brought us through this year. And remember, it doesn’t matter if something isn’t
perfect, or if there are no pumpkin pies. To me, those little “mistakes” are
what leave lasting memories to smile about in the future.
I’m giving away a copy of her upcoming book,
AMISH COUNTRY KILLER. To be entered, comment and tell me how you cope with the
stress of Thanksgiving meal preparation if you’re the chef or share a favorite Thanksgiving
“mistake” that still makes you smile.
Be sure to leave your email address in your comment.
I’ll announce the winner soon!
Here’s a little about AMISH COUNTRY KILLER:
An unsolved mystery…
Seeking the truth could be fatal.
Reopening the investigation of her mother's
disappearance puts chief of police Diana Fisher in someone’s lethal sights. As
she delves deeper into the mystery, a murderer resurfaces, targeting the Amish
community. Detective Micah Nissley, whose fiancée went missing a decade ago,
joins forces with Diana to stop the threats and bring the killer to justice.
But can they uncover the connection between Diana and the culprit before she
becomes the next victim?
Until next time, dear friends, Happy
Thanksgiving!
Mary
A great way for me to destress from things that get hectic - during the holidays or any time - is to grab my camera, step out on the porch, and observe God's critters in action while trying to capture them in a photo. Before long, I'm calm. It reminds me that God has everything under control from the littlest critter to the big preparations. If weather, doesn't permit going outside, I can sit by the fireplace and read a few chapters of the book I'm reading. It allows me to remove myself from my life and immerse it into the characters for a bit. My heart rate will decrease and often make me realize that my "problems" aren't near as bad - like a character that is running from someone wanting to kill them :)
ReplyDeleteWe are having Thanksgiving dinner with a large Mennonite family that we became dear friends with after Jason and his brothers built our home. I know the food will be superb whatever is served. I'm taking 2 double pecan pies and 2 half gallons of ice cream. It wasn't until a few years ago that I had heard of ice cream on pecan pie. It's not for me, but will make others very happy. While not doing much cooking, I will happily help with clean up to give those that fixed the meal a break.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! Whether in a big celebration or all alone, it's a day meant to give thanks for our many blessing. We all have much to be thankful for I am sure. I know I do!
2clowns at arkansas dot net
I love your thoughts on destressing, Kay. Those are perfect. And your Thanksgiving sounds wonderful. I'm sure the food with be amazing. Your pies certainly sound like they will be. I don't think I've had ice cream on pie either. I'm gonna try it.
DeleteBest stress coping mechanism for Thanksgiving: my SIL hosts every year, so all I have to do is bring a side dish!!!😁
ReplyDeleteI think my husband and I have only ever hosted Thanksgiving maybe 3 times in our 25 years of being married. I don't remember any Thanksgiving "mistakes."
Happy Thanksgiving!!
Heather Mitchell crhbmitchellfam@gmail.com
That's the perfect way to cope with stress, Heather. Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteMy mom passed away on a Thanksgiving Day so my husband and are very low key. We’re eating take out Chinese. My daughter and son are eating at their inlaws.
ReplyDeleteGail Hollingsworth
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Holidays are hard after losing a loved one, Gail. I've been there. It's just not the same.
DeleteAlways remember to read the instructions on baking pies. One year at Thanksgiving I thought a frozen pie just needed thawed out. If I would have read the instructions, I would have realized it needed cooking. It has become a a yearly joke. lol!
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving!
Sherry Brown
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Just me. Learned my body does not do holidays.
ReplyDeleteI get that, Kim. I hope you have a beautiful day no matter what you do!
DeleteI don’t usually have that stress anymore.it’s just my daughter and I and we do nothing together.We haven’t gone to my brother’s since COVID hit.
ReplyDeleteWhen my parents were live I used to make and take ten to twelve pies to the family gathering. Now, that was stressful!
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prepare ahead
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DeleteWe usually go to a relative's house for the day and it's usually potluck.
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I reduce stress by having family bring side dishes, except macaroni and cheese. I’m the one that makes it the way they like it. My youngest son usually smokes the turkey. His wife makes apple pie. My other daughter-in-law usually fixes green bean casserole. I found a really good frozen sweet potato casserole topped with praline topping. So easy. My grandsons help with cleanup.
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving to all of you! terriandricky@gmail.com
I am the chef and how I manage is by doing a thorough job of planning. I have done it enough years that I know that planning and organizing is the key to success. I also take breaks when I can. Just putting up my feet for 10-15 minutes can really help. cherierj(at)yahoo(dot)com
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I are cooking. My Dad has decided not to come down. It will only be the two of us. I have been praying and trusting in the Lord for things to work out. Neither one of us has had a lot of energy so it works out well that we can take things at our pace. Happy Thanksgiving. Congratulations on your new book. God bless you. dpruss@prodigy.net
ReplyDeleteSo sorry. My name did not populate. Debra Pruss dpruss@prodigy.net
DeleteThe first time I had to cook the whole Thanksgiving meal because my mother-in-law no longer could. It looked beautiful, but everything tasted awful! No one said a word until I did. I still laugh about that meal. The book sounds awesome, as always! ceedee1958@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteA wonderful post, Mary!
ReplyDeleteI sit and rest between cooking and listen to music. I can’t think of any mistakes . linda-henderson@att.net
ReplyDeleteWe take turns with our daughter who lives in our same town, we celebrate Thanksgiving either at our house or in hers and wherever we have it we take side dishes, the turkey is cooked at the home of where we are gathering at, there is no stress cause everybody cooperates, it is a day of being Thankful. Have a Blessed Day. Alicia Haney. aliciabhaney(at)sbcglobal(dot)net
ReplyDeleteWe did it the easy way this year and ordered the Thanksgiving meal from our local Kroger's! No stress of cooking and it was very good! tWarner419@aol.com
ReplyDeleteThank you for the calming advice. We go to our son’s house for Thanksgiving, so no stress in cooking. Just more noise than I’m used to. watts.vickie@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteHi Mary. We thought my Dad who has dementia may come down for Thanksgiving. I was getting myself stressed. He decided after he had a bad day on Wednesday to stay home. That allowed my husband and I to take our time preparing our meal. I started my day with prayer and devotions. We did not get stressed. My husband watched the Macy's parade,. I had some time to read. It made for a relaxing day. dpruss@prodigy.net
ReplyDeleteDaughter in law cooked I didn't and left the heart in the turkey lol luckylady4163@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteMy daughter and granddaughter do most of the work. I just show up with a side dish and promise to help with clean up.
ReplyDeleteOne year I found a new variation of one of our favorites and it did not go over well. Back to the tried and true.
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ReplyDeleteI don’t really have any stress about it because I don’t cook it. I will have to start next year because a lot of my family moved. I hope you had a great thanksgiving! Andreadrake1@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteNo stress for me this year. My husband was involved Texas, I'm in Kansas, so I just went to my son-in-law's sister's house for Thanksgiving. No cooking. No clean up. No stress. I let all the younger generation do that this year. LOL But your book looks super good. 🥰
ReplyDeleteI order pre bake pizzas a day ahead & then bake pies & pizza for Thanksgiving. … stress free & minimal clean up. Love the Amish books.
ReplyDeleteAll of my 5 children and their families were her I Love reading Amish books Sarahbaby601973(at)gmail(dot)com
ReplyDeleteHow I handle stress is to ask for help. My worse was the 1st turkey I fixed for my parents and in laws and I left the innards in during the whole process of cooking, they still ate it and laughed about it.
ReplyDeleteI plan ahead to help reduce my stress level. Whatever dishes I can prepare the day before I do. I do my prep work of cutting and chopping things also the day before. One thing that really helps reduce my stress is to clean as I go so I am not surrounded by dirty dishes and a mess.
ReplyDeleteI love the holiday and get an early start. Love having the family around to enjoy it. Theresa weceno At yahoo dot com
ReplyDeleteI used to host Thanksgiving dinner but now my daughter-in-law does. The biggest thing in coping for me was to prepare as much ahead as I could. I prepped the turkey the night before, keep it in the fridge, and ready to go into the oven first thing Thanksgiving morning.
ReplyDeleteWe actually go out to eat on Thanksgiving. My husband, Jim, is a Chef and would love to cook for Thanksgiving, but we join family when we go out. He will cook Christmas dinner at home.
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ReplyDeleteI stop take a deep breath and say a prayer. Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you. dpruss@prodigy.net
ReplyDeleteI often do most of the meal prep the day before so I can enjoy the holiday.
ReplyDeleteI find that it helps if there are others to share the cooking, etc.
ReplyDeleteThanks!
Janice M.pjrcmoore@windstream.net