Wednesday, May 16, 2018

PRETTY WORDS AND PINK SLIPS by Linda White


Linda J. White writes FBI thrillers from her home in rural Virginia. Her husband, Larry, was a video producer/director at the FBI Academy for over 27 years. Mother of three grown children, Linda is also a national-award winning journalist and a women’s ministry speaker. When she’s not writing, she can be found playing with Keira, her Sheltie, reading a book, or dreaming of the beach.


Website: lindajwhite.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LindaJWhiteBooks?ref=hl
Twitter: @rytn4hm



Pretty Words and Pink Slips

Every writer has to learn to deal with rejection. But then, so do you. Being rejected is part of the human condition, and the sooner we learn to adopt a godly perspective on it, the happier we’ll be.

Rejections come hard for a writer at first. We labor over our
words, choosing each one carefully, writing and re-writing our work until we believe it is perfect. Then, whether it’s a blog post or a magazine article or a book, we send it off with high hopes and a flock of prayers.

Most of the time, especially in the beginning, the answer comes back, “Not for us”—if there’s any answer at all.

Believe me, that hurts! But so does not being chosen at the dance or for the team or for a romantic relationship. So does having your brothers despise you (Joseph), your husband prefer another (Leah), or a friend betray you (Jesus). Rejection happens! So what’s a person to do?

Here’s how I’ve been learning to cope with rejection:

1. Trust God: “For I know the plans I have for you … plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11. Nothing can stop God’s plan for me.

2. Believe in His love: “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” Jeremiah 31:3 I meditate on the Cross, and what it cost Jesus to save me.

3. Choose hope: “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Romans 12:12 Rejection is a form of tribulation, but I choose hope—because God loves me and he is sovereign.

How have you dealt with rejection? Comment below for a chance to win a $15 Amazon gift card or a paperback copy of any of my six FBI thrillers.

Linda J. White

www.lindajwhite.net

40 comments:

  1. When I receive a rejection, whether it be from a publisher or contest, I tell myself this was not God's plan for me. And His plan is always better. Good post!

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  2. Rejection does hurt and it can make you question your self worth but I try to keep in mind that backsets make us stronger and that God has His plan!
    Thanks for sharing this inspired Bible scripture.
    Blessings!
    Connie
    cps1950(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. Thanks, Connie. Blessings to you ...

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  3. I am not good at dealing with reject. I usually cry and am down on myself for a period of time.
    Great blog post. Thank you for sharing the scriptures.
    Blessings,
    CherylB1987 AT hotmail DOT com

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    1. Crying can be cleansing! But always come back to this: You are beloved by God, chosen, redeemed, and destined for glory. God bless!

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  4. I have a hard time with rejection! Although the older I get and the more time I spend in scripture, the easier it is to focus on that and not the rejection. Loved the blog post, very encouraging!

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    1. That's one benefit of getting older: We grow in wisdom, right! And abiding in the Word is key. All the best ...

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  5. Great post, Linda! Yes, I've definitely dealt with a lot of rejection, and I'm never great at dealing with it. I love these helpful tips for how to respond to rejection rightly. Especially the point of being "constant in prayer," as Romans says, and rejoicing "in hope." Our eternal hope, which is here and now, too, is so much greater than any rejection we'll encounter! Thanks for this reminder today!

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    1. Hi, Jerusha: Love your eternal perspective. Focusing on what's ahead of us helps, doesn't it? God bless.

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  6. I was rejected by friends and family when I left the Jehovah's Witnesses religion. So sad. Would love to read your books.

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    1. Becky, that's so hard! God bless you! Remember Jesus went through that, too: At first, his whole family thought he was crazy. We have a Savior who can identify with your pain. Praise God!

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  7. I struggle with personal rejection. If someone claimed to be my friend and then does something to purposely hurt me, that is hard for me to get over. I consistently try to give it to God and then something happens to bring it back in to the front of my mind. Definitely a fault I'm working on and praying for God's strength.

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    1. I think a lot of people could identify with you. Good for you for asking for God's help to get past it.

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  8. I have been rejected many times through the years. It does hurt very much. With the Lord's help I've gotten through and over the hurt feelings.

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    1. God is so gracious, Beverly! Thank you for sharing!

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  9. As a child rejection for me hurt a lot worse. As the years go by it’s so much easier. As a senior (I hate that word) adult I don’t take others opinions too seriously, negative ones that is.
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  10. Good for you, Gail! We do learn, don't we, to filter out the negative.

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  12. Before I came to know Christ, rejection was everywhere. Work, love, money... But knowing that Jesus is preparing a room for me in Heaven. I can get through this world okay!

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    1. Blessings, Lisa: Knowing Jesus is the best thing! I'm sorry for all the past rejection. It's not easy dealing with it. But focusing on Jesus is the way to go.

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  13. A husband rejected me & our 4 children; I was fired from a job last year... it hurts...

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    1. Barb, that's terrible. The pain must be overwhelming. I hope you are able to persist, day by day, pursuing Jesus at every step. That's the strongest lesson you can teach your children. Grace and peace to you. Jesus loves you very much.

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  14. talk with family

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  15. Rejection is hurtful and damaging. It can lead to anger, bitterness and unforgiveness if we are willing to let it. And as much as I want to say I don't, I do. It's truly a struggle. But I try to give it to God by trust Him with my feelings and uprooting all the hurt.

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    1. Chanel, you are wise! Honestly, we all experience rejection. Giving it to God is all we can do.
      May God's love cover you!

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  16. Rejection can be very hard to take, but I trust.

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  17. I was rejected by my birth mother when I was 8yo. She left my brother and I on my Dad's back porch step and told us she never wanted to see us again. It has taken a LONG time to deal with it, and it has been in stages, or layers like that onion. My hope, my joy, my peace comes in knowing that I belong to the Father! Not that He hadn't before, but two years ago, He gave me a ring of Sonship! and I wear it proudly, and peacefully! That, I believe, was the final layer in dealing with the rejection of my childhood. I proudly declare and sometimes scream, "I belong!"

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    1. I'm so sorry, Kelly! I love your analogy to an onion. Goodness, it can take a lifetime to get through that. Thankfully, you know Whose you are!

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  18. I think rejection is hard for anyone. I don't handle it well, but try not to dwell on it and move on.

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  19. I don’t handle it well. Neither do my children. Hoping and praying for God’s direction helps. Holding onto His promises also helps me and I’m hoping that will be helpful for my children.

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  20. Rejection has always been so hard for me. I tend to internalize & beat myself up. Thank you for sharing these scripture verses. The Lord should be the first place I turn. rw620 AT aol DOT com

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  21. I deal with rejection by taking it to Jesus. I lay it all on Him and leave it there as I live forward.

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  22. Yes I was rejected by friends and family after I left the Jehovah's Witness religion.

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  23. We all have been rejected on some level. I know that I have. I try to remember that it's on them, not me-with God's help.

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  24. Hi Linda,

    I really enjoyed your post! Quite timely for me. Not because of a book rejection, but because of an employee's rejection. I read of so many other's deep hurt from rejection of a very valued relationship and tend to dismiss mine as not important...and yet...I know Our Father in heaven sees my hurting heart and cares deeply. I feel strengthened in His sustaining love! Thanks for encouraging us to turn to Him for comfort!

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  25. Lovely to see you here Linda. Thank you for sharing.

    marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

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  26. I remember my first rejection - I had submitted a WIP to Love Inspired - and while it was rejected - it got great critque

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  27. The worst rejection i every faced was from my ex-husband. God was with me through that and brought healing and my Christian husband. We have been married 32 years, praise God. Vivian Furbay jtandviv(at)q(dot)com

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  28. Biggest rejection that I recall had been from my ex-boyfriends.

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