Writing romantic suspense means balancing.
The romance angle usually does best when the male lead is strong.
Let’s be honest, women read romance, and women like strong men. What a strong
man looks like can vary (leadership, fight skills, intelligence), but I’ll
stick with that general term. But I have read (or attempted to read) way too
many books where the male is strong, and it seems the writer deems that the
female must then be a simpering wimp. She gets overwhelmed and cries constantly,
she can’t take the lead, and she’s often rather stupid.
Or occasionally, the opposite—the female is excessively aggressive,
and the male is a wimp. These books are usually dubbed female-empowering. But
if the woman can be balanced only by a wimp man, how empowered is she really?
And the female is often written with exaggerated characteristics. She can fight
better than any man, including when mass and strength are at play. She can
command authority from anyone. She knows everything. And if I’m being honest,
she’s often written to be a bit masculine—she’s strong in the exact ways men
are strong. Not that women can’t be fighters or aggressive, but why isn’t it
okay for women to be strong in ways that men typically aren’t?
I’ve always loved that line in My Big Fat Greek Wedding,
where the mother tells her daughter, “The man is the head [of the house], but
the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants.” Men tend
to be direct, and that can be good. But women often have the amazing skill of
nudging things along more subtly. Maybe this skillset isn’t often incorporated
in books because it’s harder to write. I don’t know.
In my opinion, the best romantic suspense books are the ones
where the male and female leads are strong in their own ways. They lean on each
other. For Example, in The Lost Library, Asher (billionaire, ex-Navy
SEAL) has resources to help Cali escape quickly and also the skills to deal
with deadly physical attacks. Cali has self-defense skills, but she
recognizes Asher’s abilities far exceed hers, so she assists but lets him lead.
But when it comes to decoding, Asher trusts Cali (master cryptologist and
linguist) and defers to her expertise without question. They don’t become
passive or wimpy, but they become the supporting role in certain situations.
When balance is achieved in these relationships, it can be very
fulfilling. Not just in books but in life.
Check out Melissa Koslin’s latest book: The Lost
Library
Her past has caught up with her. Again.
Cali Lebeau has been aiding hackers with her cryptology
skills to track an apparent terrorist organization. When they discover what she’s
been doing, they target her. Asher Cross, billionaire recluse, insists on
aiding her, though she doesn’t understand why.
Asher Cross has secrets. He must help Cali, keep her alive,
but he cannot let her understand his past or his motivations—in order to
protect her.
They discover that the terrorist organization is searching
for the Golden Library of Moscow, which was first assembled by Ivan the Great
and had grown over time to include the oldest and most valuable texts in the
world, including missing masterpieces. They believe the library holds black
magic and the secret to everlasting life. It was stolen from them by Cali’s
ancestor, and Cali holds a clue to its location handed down by her mother. In
order to free herself and Asher, Cali must race against the terrorists, find
the library, and share it with the world.
Will they be able to solve the mystery surrounding the Lost Library or risk losing their lives?
Leave a comment about this post and include your email address, and you'll be entered into a contest to win a Kindle copy of The Lost Library!
Melissa Koslin is a fourth-degree
black belt in and certified instructor of traditional Taekwondo. During the
day, she masquerades as a commercial property manager. She and Corey, her
husband of twenty-five years, and three-year-old daughter live in Florida,
where they do their best not to melt in the sun.
interesting
ReplyDeletebn100candg at hotmail dot com
I so agree about having the heroine be strong in ways different from the hero! Great post.
ReplyDeleteThanks!
Delete"But if the woman can be balanced only by a wimp man, how empowered is she really?" This exactly!!! I love a balanced romance where the man and woman each bring their strengths and work together. mj_lehman@yahoo.com
ReplyDelete:-)
DeleteI totally agree with your balancing idea and letting male and female have strengths that complement each other. watts.vickie@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteI agree, the best romantic suspense books are the ones where the male and female leads are strong in their own ways. They lean on each other. This book sounds really good. ozarkharness@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteI agree. We all have strengths and weaknesses, and I do not want to read main characters as a weakling. Thank you. ceedee1958@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteCouldn’t agree more about strengths and relative strengths. Sometimes strength is recognizing someone else is better positioned to lead at the time. becca12902 at yahoo
ReplyDeleteExcellent point.
DeleteThis comment has been removed by the author.
ReplyDeleteSounds awesome
ReplyDeletemarcus802001(at)yahoo(dot)com
This is so true! God made men and women with equal but opposite roles to compliment one another. I love books that highlight this truth!
ReplyDeletesvenable@westmont.edu
Sounds like a great book I agree I love when they are equals. As everyone should be in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteEmail- dreadrake1@gmail.com
It is an interesating way to look at the issue. Thank you for the giveaway opportunity alysap at yahoo dot com
ReplyDeleteMelissa Koslin is new to me. The book looks like a great read. And...Melissa is a 4th degree black belt...That is impressive.
ReplyDeleteThe book title The Lost Library is enticing, and the story is intriguing! I like Melissa's idea of balancing the male and female strength in a story. cwkuen(at)yahoo(dot)com
ReplyDeleteI completely agree; it's kind of a turn-off for the female to be on the wimpy side, because not all of us are like that in real life. I prefer for the female character to be strong, but a strong equal to the male character.
ReplyDeletemelanie_brac (at) yahoo (dot) com
I'd like to read The Lost Library! Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeletekykla99ATgmailDOTcom
I've had my eye on this book, yay! I love your analysis of balancing strength between men and women. Thank you for sharing! Lcisson at gmail.com
ReplyDeleteI agree with this! Really, truly, the best relationships in life are the ones where you play to each other's strengths and weaknesses. Interestingly enough, God usually pairs us with partners and/or friends who compliment those strengths and weaknesses, so that we're better together!
ReplyDeleteHeather Mitchell crhbmitchellfam@duck.com
I love the blurb! wauna01 at gmail dot com
ReplyDelete